Some Midnight Random Thoughts about Broken Friendships (Based on True Stories)

2 04 2008

As a child, friendship for me was very sincere.

We had less friendship-related-issue intrigues.

We made friends with anyone we liked.

*And probably also discouraged to made friends with anyone we disliked.*

When I was a child, I was taught not to talk about someone behind his/her back.

Hence, I used to warn them whenever they did mistakes,,

instead of making few false rumors.

Appreciating friends was also a huge issue.

Never ever treat them unfairly.

Well, growing old doesn’t always makes us a better person.

Lately, just these few days, I noticed some unacceptable friendship-related-issue intrigues.

Where simple problems were made more complicated.

Where sincere friendships less exist, fake one sometimes does.

Where professional issues then become personal issues,,

and personal issues destruct professional issues.

Where friends stab other friends.

Less appreciation is then become a huge issue.

In the end, it affects the community, badly.

Well, cruelly, I might be one of them.

These problems sound simple and childish.

But yet, it often happens, again and again.

Let’s do some introspection.

Let’s not find someone to blame.

Probably, if you aren’t part of solutions, then you are part of the problems.

*Written by me, based on true stories that I’ve been observing lately. Big apologizes for those whom then consider themselves involved in the writing above. This goes for me too. Cheer up everyone! Hehe.. ;p *

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22 responses

3 04 2008
dian novita

yeah, i promise not to ask anything about this posting.

no question, cause i know it goes for me too, tho i think it’s not caused by profesional issue.

but yes fi, it affects the community, badly.

so, with you, i’m don’t want we get into this.
till death do us apart..
*najos ah*

*akhirnya ada postingan jg. bagus fi. siapa bilang lo gak bisa nulis?

4 04 2008
aldud

lo tuh emang childish gw bilang fi malu ama umur hahahahahahahhaha

5 04 2008
Mirza Harun

hmmn..that’s life honey..
sum goes up..and sum goes down..i am now at the very bottom of my life..
just deal with it..hav fun with it..and ‘em maybe..ignore it for some cases..because sumtimes if you too into it may hav cause you sum trouble for yourself..so also in sum cases..face the future..the only future that’ll bring happiness..

cheers sister,

5 04 2008
moli

wow fi… ntar gw nulis versi gw ah…

hahahahha…

hmm.. sabar dan ikhlas (kaya di ayat2 cinta).. hahahaha…
mungkin dua hal itu yang paling dibutuhkan…

5 04 2008
Intan

Well,
i think my little girl has grown up to be a wise woman…

Tulisan loe bagus banget…
and i think it is the perfect topic..
No Doubt that gw juga ngerasain dan mungkin menjadi oknum di dalamnya…
but i try my best to be the best friend, the humble mother, and loving sister..

semoga kita bisa temenan ampe tua ya….
Biar anak kita nikahin aja biar gw bisa tetep cengengesan bareng loe pas kita udah pantes dipanggil nenek…
Gak papa anak loe cina… atau asli sunda….
mau dia suka dugem… atau suka pengajian (Amien…)
Yang pasti gw tau orang tuanya luar biasa baik…
jadi anaknya juga pasti baik.. (doa ni cui…)

Nulis lagi ya fi…
gw seneng baca tulisan loe..

Ps: Puisinya di publish dong….

6 04 2008
rani sitompul

fi..
gw hrs pake bhs inggris gak nih??huahahaha..
well..ikhlas, be patient, live, and learn..
learn from ur own mistakes and other people’s, u dun live long enough to make it all by urself,hehe..
yg pasti i noe u won’t stab me on the back..
luv ya..

6 04 2008
buku13404

gw aja gak di link.

you wrote this lho..
“Appreciating friends was also a huge issue”

6 04 2008
buku13404

itu gw. alias Mirza.

pk account buku angkatan.

7 04 2008
rubby

fi, big apologizes for me?? hehehe.. gw maafin fi..dasar lo!! tapi bedanya emang lo ngomongin gw di depan gw..

8 04 2008
zulfadlillah

halo arfi, nice blog…

8 04 2008
Benhard Adolf

nice post fi… yeah, in some ways, you are really something!!

11 04 2008
zulfadlillah

oke oke…blog ini gw link…mba yang satu ini bakal jadi blogger nih kayanya…hehehe…

11 04 2008
ikazain

indeed, friendships are expensive.

13 04 2008
Echi

*Gak bisa bahasa Ingris.

Arfi jadi blogger! :D

13 04 2008
leonardo

Hmm,,
pertama,, makasih banyak2 udah ngedit blog gw,,
keren bgt jadinya,,
kesannya jadi gw jago bikin blog gitu,, hehe2..

tentang tulisan,,
bagus bgt,,
deskriptif sekali,,
dengan beberapa perumpamaan,,

mungkin ini ngegambarin lo,,

Hence, I used to warn them whenever they did mistakes,,

memang ini cara yang paling tepat untuk memperbaiki orang lain,,
apalagi klo dilakuin ngga didepan orang lain..

dan final statement yang juga baik,,

Probably, if you aren’t part of solutions, then you are part of the problems.
“http://jayantiarfi.wordpress.com”

Good for youlah..!!

17 04 2008
yasmin

hoo.. nice writing fi..

22 04 2008
uqi

I feel the same way too.. and since “that day” i promise myself not to talk anything bad behind my friends again and again.. As u say, that it just affect community badly..

blog lo gw link ya…

26 04 2008
sidhikara

lah situ punya blog?
piye toh….

27 04 2008
atiek

heuheuheu..
pendewasaan, tapi sebenarnya lo itu orang yang terlalu baik.. sampai sulit marah, sampai sulit menolak, sampai sampai sakit sendiri…

hehe jgn menyiksa diri sendiri, *sebenarnya nyambung gak sih gw*

3 05 2008
Aldy Pratama

haduh bahasa inggris nih nulisnya..
agak-agak macet masuk ke otak gw..

Aldy si blogwalker

18 05 2008
kiki

Arfi…
udah kaget ternyata lo punya blog..
tapi yang paling bikin enlighted pas baca blog lo adalah how i am so DAMN proud of you !!!!!
our community sometimes discouraged us to hold on to our values.
just be genuine. at least we know we act as ourselves not as what others want us to be..
huhuhu jadi kangen…

btw. gue link yaahhh

12 10 2008
aswan lubis

woi fi ikut komen ya….. cuma satu yang bisa gw bilang ‘persahabatan bagai kepompong’ haha….

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